Before you even try to learn how to run WITH the pole on the track (even before aiming at a towel), you should learn to run "properly" WITHOUT a pole.
By "properly" I mean with the proper body angle, and the proper amount of "wobbling" of the wrists, elbows, and shoulders. You should basically pretend that you're running with the pole, and keep your arm motions to a minimum.
While I don't recommend doing this during sprint time trials or when you're out for a relaxing jog, you should strive to run with square shoulders and arms in the "pole holding position" at all other times. This would ESPECIALLY include when you're warming up on the runway ... without the pole.
After all, if you can't run relaxed with mimimal arm motion WITHOUT the pole, then how can you expect to do it WITH the pole?

Kirk